Sexual Lust Leads To Death – Sexual Purity Sermon Series

We are on part number two of a sermon series about purity, specifically sexual purity. Last week, we talked about how you need to flee sexual immorality. A year or so ago, we had a sermon about “No Impure Sexual Thoughts,” and that one kind of inspired this series to happen.

It was more provoking, thought-provoking, conversation-provoking, and so then I decided we better kick off a little series, a little three-week miniseries, to talk a little bit more about this.

So, if you have children and you guys are watching, it’s up to you — parental discretion — on what you want to do if you want to have your children learn or know about this.

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But the point is, today we are going to talk about “How Sexual Lust Leads To Death” or “Sexual Lust.” And so, we are talking about these topics.

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You’re calling out the Bible, and society really does not go along with these topics. They do not like what the Word of God has to say.

Our TV shows, our high schools, even our nursing homes are filled with sexual activity, promiscuity, sexual diseases, all kinds of problems going on because of lust, sexual impurity, impure sexual thoughts, immorality, all of these things that happen.

Now, what we are talking about is these topics within the Bible and what you need to do to avoid them, and how you can still live a completely sexually fulfilled life, God’s way.

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All right, let’s talk about this. Hopefully, you’re all situated, you’re ready to go. “Sexual Lust Leads To Death.” We’re going to kick it off with some verses. I love the Bible. Scripture is awesome. So, let’s take a look at Job.

We’re going to go to Job 31:1. All of these references will be in the description on the YouTube channel or our website. On our website, you can click on each one of them, and a verse will pop up. We got a lot of them today.

Job 31:1, “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.” Now, there is a distinction that we need to make right here. Lust is something that can happen in any situation. You can have a lust for food, you can have a lust for sex, you can have a lust for anything. What we are talking about today is sexual lust.

So, when we get into some verses later on, like in the New Testament, and it’s referenced, “the lusts of the flesh,” that doesn’t necessarily always mean sex. It could mean something like lusts of the flesh — gluttony.

People who are 300 pounds and who eat all the time and get banned from the all-you-can-eat buffets, they have a lust for food. People who chain-smoke cigarettes and go through three packs a day, five packs a day, they have a lust for that. People who are drinking alcohol like crazy, pounding down a 12-pack every evening, have a lust for alcohol.

You get the idea — kind of an addiction, so to speak. It’s a desire for something until that desire is gratified, and then it subsides for a little bit and then comes back. It is a lust.

So, today, we are talking about sexual lust, and that’s what Job says here. Job 31:1, “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman,” or any woman. So, he decided that, boom, “I made a covenant that when I see a smoking hot babe walking by, bam, he’s not even looking.”

He could see and admire the beauty and say, “That’s a great creation of God,” or “Wow, she is really beautiful,” and that’s it. He didn’t say, “I made a covenant not to look at women.” He said, “No, I made a covenant not to look lustfully.” So, remember that.

Let’s go down to Job 31:11 and 12, “For that would have been wicked, a sin to be judged. It is a fire that burns to destruction; it would have uprooted my harvest.” What is he talking about?

Well, when you look at the first verse, you know he made a covenant with his eyes not to look lustfully or sexual lust, because that would be wicked. What would it do? Well, it is a fire that burns to destruction when that happens, and it will uproot his harvest.

What is he talking about? That fire would burn to destruction and uproot his harvest. The harvest in his marriage of when he and his wife get together, they sow seeds, and they have children, and they harvest. They reap a bountiful harvest. They have children that can go out and continue spreading the Word of God.

We can even go back. Look at this. This whole chapter, Job 31, is excellent when it comes to this topic. Let’s go to Job 31:9, “If my heart has been enticed by a woman, or if I have lurked at my neighbor’s door, then may my wife grind another man’s grain, and may other men sleep with her.”

That’s pretty bold. Can you say that about your life, men out there? Or even women, can you say that about yours in the opposite sense? Have you lurked at your neighbor’s door? That doesn’t mean standing outside looking in, but it could.

Today, we have that same view on the computer. You can view in someone’s bedroom and watch as they take place and all kinds of nasty things or pleasurable things for them or for viewers or whatever. A lot of them might be sex slaves, so you don’t even know.

The point is, are you lurking outside your marriage? Are you lusting outside? If you are, look at that. Job says he made a covenant with his eyes. He knew he wasn’t doing that.

So, he says, if he has, “May his wife grind another man’s grain, and may other men sleep with her.” That’s how confident he was. He knew he hadn’t had that happen to him.

I pray that for each and every one of you watching, that you know there is no sexual lust in you, that you can crucify that desire and keep your sexual desires and gratification within the confines of your heterosexual, God-inspired marriage relationship.

Let’s continue on. We’re going to go to Proverbs 7:22 and 23, “All at once he followed her like an ox going to a slaughter, like a deer stepping into a noose, till an arrow pierces his liver, like a bird darting into a snare, little knowing it will cost him his life.”

In case you weren’t clear there, all at once, a bunch of examples: going to the death, arrow piercing the liver — death, bird into a snare — death, deer stepping into a noose — death, little knowing it will cost him his life.

Solomon was the wisest man that ever lived. In Proverbs 7, he is warning others about the dangers of sexual lust and of giving in to sexual temptation. We cannot do it. Let’s go to Proverbs 6:25. Lots of verses today. We’re going to speed through them.

Come back later, rewatch the sermon, pause it, dive more into these verses because the verses around them are essential to get a good understanding of what’s going on. Proverbs 6:25, “Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes.”

Although men are typically more at risk for sexual lust than women, it is important for women as well. But a lot of these verses, you’ll notice, are written toward the men. Why? Usually, it is the men that are led astray by the women.

By desiring sexual lust or by desiring that sexual activity. And usually, it is women who either advertently lead the men astray, or unadvertently or inadvertently lead them astray.

Women, there are a couple of things you can do to help with that. We’re going to talk about that later on as well, in the series and today. But, the point is, that men, you need to make that common with your eyes, women, noble character is important. Men and women noble character is important, treating each other well.

I have a book called “Noble Character.” I’ll try to put it up here in a card. I probably won’t be able to, but you can go to my website, spencercoffman.com, and find it, or you just type in “Noble Character: The Importance of a Proverbs 31 Woman in Your Marriage,” and you can read that book.

And you might say, “Well, I don’t want a guy telling a woman about a marriage.” No, listen, it’s both ways. There are scriptures in there for men. There are scriptures in there for women.

It is a book about marriage and how, men: you need to be having a woman of noble character in your marriage, and how you need to help make that woman a woman of noble character.

And what does that mean? It doesn’t mean you are forcing your will on her. No, it means women are living by the Bible, women, like, very, very powerful scripture, doing God’s will. Because, guess what? They have rights just like we do. And that is all out of the Bible.

We don’t need to go into society to find all these activisms or feminisms or all these isms out there, because the Bible has everything we need for men and women to be treated exactly as God designed for it to happen.

And any of it that isn’t right, or that’s like one ruling over another, or dominating, or where they don’t have certain rights, or they can’t do certain things, those are all perversions of what God created. That’s from the devil. We don’t subscribe to any of that. All right, let’s go to Mark.

Mark 7:20-23, “He went on: ‘What comes out of a person is what defiles them. For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come — sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance, and folly. All these evils come from inside and defile a person.’”

Basically, you need to make sure that your heart is pure, that you make those covenants, that you take every thought captive, making it obedient to Christ. Because then, if your insides are pure, it’s not going to come out impure.

You’re not going to say lewd comments, you’re not going to make crude jokes, you’re not going to see someone and think about some kind of sexual thought when you’re at the grocery store, and you see someone walking by, when you see someone immodestly dressed.

When you have a TV commercial and it’s of the beach, and people are in swimsuits. You’re not going to have those thoughts, and you’re not going to say those things. “Oh, will this be nice — No”

What’s inside comes out. Purify your heart. Live in sexual purity. Solomon tells of his witnessing this adulterous wife seducing a young man into her bedroom because her husband is gone.

She tells the young boy or the young man, “Hey, this is okay, because I’ve already gone and paid for my sin with a fellowship offering.” That’s in Proverbs 7:14-20. Let’s read that section today.

“Today, I fulfilled my vows. I have food from my fellowship offering at home.” She already paid the priest. She already made the sacrifice, and she has the leftover. So, first of all, she took the food from her fellowship offering. That doesn’t even make sense, so that should have been red flags all over.

But this young man was so captivated by her beauty and was led lustfully, seeking after her beauty, because she was out there dressed in just her little shawls or whatever, leading him astray.

And Solomon is watching this, saying, “This is not good. This young man, he’s going after this woman. She’s married. I know she’s married. She’s very well-off; she’s rich. Her husband has left, and now she’s at home, and she’s seducing a young man off the street to go in and have sexual relations outside of her marriage relationship.”

Not only is she screwing up her own marriage, but now she’s ruining this other guy’s life. He’s leading himself into death. It’s all just a nightmare, and Solomon is writing this, cautioning those of us to stay away from it.

She’s committing adultery by cheating on her own husband. This young man is committing adultery by sleeping with someone in a relationship. Now, what if the young man is unmarried? Is he still committing adultery? Yes.

Not only is he committing adultery in the marriage relationship of that woman, but he’s also committing adultery against his future wife, who God has already picked out for him.

So, avoid sexual immorality. Avoid sexual impurity. Avoid fornication. Flee from it. Let’s go to Exodus 20:14. We’ve got a lot of time left and a lot of scriptures left, so I’m not going to burn out through here. Exodus 20:14, “You shall not commit adultery.” Boom. Let’s go to Matthew 5:27-28.

Matthew 5:27-28, “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his eyes.”

Basically, Jesus is saying, if because you look at someone lustfully, you are committing adultery in your heart. Because from your heart is what comes out. And so, you cannot be allowing.

These people, in this instance that Solomon is talking about, they are both having sex outside of marriage. That is fornication. We do not do that. You do not want fornication. Any sex outside of marriage is a form of adultery.

Let’s go to Proverbs 6:20-28. We’re going to read this whole section. This, all this adultery stuff from Proverbs. Proverbs was filled with all kinds of characteristics of the adulterous woman, the woman folly, the woman of wisdom, the people being led astray by adultery. All of that is in that book. “Noble Character,” I encourage you to get a copy. They’re cheap, like 10, 12 bucks.

Proverbs 6:20-28, “My son, keep your father’s command and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. Bind them always on your heart and fasten them around your neck. When you walk, they will guide you; when you sleep, they will watch over you; when you awake, they will speak to you.

For this command is a lamp, this teaching is a light, and this correction and instruction is the way to life, keeping you from your neighbor’s wife, from the smooth talk of a wayward woman. Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes.

For a prostitute can be had for a loaf of bread, but another man’s wife preys on your very life. Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched?”

The answer is no. So, stay away. Solomon warns his son and everyone. He warns everyone to be careful of this. Sex is all over the TV. Women, you must know, it is your duty to help men by not being seductive.

I know that could be a little challenging for a lot of people when I say it’s a woman’s duty not to be seductive. “Well, aren’t we supposed to be proud and of our beauty?” No, you’re not supposed to be proud at all. You’re not supposed to be seductive. Let’s go to 1 Timothy 2:9 for a little more support.

1 Timothy 2:9 “I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes.”

Keep reading in that section right there. That’s your challenge. Keep reading there, because you’ll find out what women are supposed to be adorned with and how they are supposed to behave, not dressing promiscuously or provocatively.

And men, guess what? It is your duty, like Job, to make a covenant with your eyes. You must stand firm and guard yourselves against seduction.

And now, that could be advertently or inadvertently, because even a woman who isn’t dressed promiscuously or immodestly but normally in business attire, men, you could allow yourselves to be like, “Dang, she looks really good,” and take it too far. So, it’s your job to stop it right there.

And women, if you are dressing immodestly, then you’re not helping the problem. So, you’re supposed to dress normally. Well, can I even say that? Because normally, now is like no clothes on. So, for crying out loud, dress nicely, dress up, cover yourselves — not like completely, but dress so you’re not revealing those sexual parts of you.

And men, get it under control. You cannot be led into seduction by your own mind, because half the time, if some adulteress is out there trying to lead you astray, you’re allowing it to happen. So, it’s just as much your fault, if not more so. Let’s go to Psalm 119:9.

Psalm 119:9, “How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word.” In the older translations, this said, “How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word.” So, how can a young person, men and women, you want to stay pure? Live according to the Bible.

Let’s go a couple more verses real quick. We’re going to go to Romans 6:23. This is a very, very popular verse that a lot of people should have memorized. I always confuse it with Romans 3:23 and Romans 6:23, but Romans 6:23 is, “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

So, the wages of sin is death. When you are led astray, sexual lust, it leads to death. “All at once, he followed her like an ox going to a slaughter, a deer stepping into a noose, an arrow piercing its liver, a bird darting into a snare, little knowing it will cost him his life.”

Proverbs also says that in the house of the adulterous or the woman folly, that her guests are in the depths of the grave. Stay away from it. Sexual lust leads to death. You must make that covenant with your eyes.

You have to take every thought captive, as 2 Corinthians 10:5 says, “You demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and you take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ.” Do that. James 1:14-16, check this out.

James 1:14-16, “But each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. Don’t be deceived, my dear brothers and sisters.”

Listen, each person is tempted, and they are dragged away by their own evil desire. So, men, you cannot say, “Well, if that woman would have had more clothes on, or if that woman wouldn’t have done this, I wouldn’t have been led astray.” Guess what?

It was your own evil desire. You might have been tempted by the immodestly dressed woman, but then your own evil desire of sexual desires caused you to be led astray, and then the result is death.

Sin gives full birth to death. So, when you get tempted, your own evil desires drag you away, gives birth to sin. Sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. The wages of sin is death.

So, what can you do? Set up that covenant with your eyes. Avoid sexual lust. Stay within your marriage. We have that sermon series, “Married For Life.” Check it out, watch that, learn about it.

In addition, stay with us till next week. Also, if you haven’t watched the sermon from last week, dive into this purity series, learn a little bit more.

Let’s pray.

Father, thank You so much for this message, for this tough message. It’s very convicting to both men and women alike. Sexual lust leads to death and must be avoided at all costs.

Like Jesus says, if the eyes cause you to sin, gouge them out. Why? Because it is better for you to enter heaven maimed than to have your whole body thrown into hell.

Now, I’m not saying that people need to literally gouge out their eyes, but guess what? If the computer is causing them to sin, get rid of the computer.

If the phone, and they’re on Instagram, scrolling through bikini feeds, then they got to get rid of that app on their phone. Because, men, that’s the algorithm targeting you.

Father, I pray against all of those works of the devil right now. We command that to be ended in Jesus’ name.

Lord, inspire the people watching and listening that they would make covenants with their eyes, that they would purify their hearts and minds, that they would actively work to make themselves a new creation. You’ve made them a new creation in You.

Now they must work to renew their minds, that they would purify themselves so that they will have no sexual lust, no sexual impurity, no impure sexual thoughts, no sexual immorality anywhere in their life, and that their marriage would be rich and full, prosperous and pleasurable.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Thanks so much for being with us this week. Come back next week. We’ve got another great message on the results of sexual impurity.

Have a great week, and God bless.