Have you ever felt like you’re talking to a wall when praying? Do you sometimes feel like God isn’t listening or doesn’t respond? This can be very frustrating and disheartening. But the truth is, God does want to hear from us, and He wants to give us what we ask for!

When we talk to God through prayer, we are entering into a relationship with Him. We can pour out our hearts, share our joys and concerns, and seek His wisdom. When we pray, we can be sure that God is paying attention and cares about what we have to say.

God also wants us to ask for the right things. He knows what is best for us, so He will always answer our prayers in a way that is in line with His will. Asking for the wrong things won’t get us very far; that’s why it’s important that we focus on asking for what God wants us to have.

It’s also important to remember that God loves us deeply. He desires the best for us, and when we come before Him in prayer, He hears our cries and responds with love. Knowing this can help remind us of how much value and worth we have in His eyes as His children.

So don’t be afraid or discouraged if it feels like you’re talking to a wall when praying – because God does want you to talk to Him! Pray with faith knowing that He hears you and will answer according to His will. When you do this, you can be sure that He desires only good things for your future!

Referenced Verses:
1 John 4:9-11
1 John 3:1
Matthew 7:7
James 4:3
1 Thessalonians 5:17-18
Matthew 6:8-9


Video Transcript

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Today, we are going to be talking about asking God for the right things. Now, this is important. Here, we believe that Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior. Now, if you don’t believe that, that’s okay. We want you to continue watching, and we hope that this video will touch you.

And, if you want to learn more about what it means, feel free to comment or send us a message on Facebook, and we can help you learn more about what it means to have Jesus as your Lord and Savior.

So, I say this all because when we are talking about asking God for the right things, we are praying to the one true God, which is Yahweh, or the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob as Jesus Christ. So, that’s who we are praying to. That’s who we are asking for the right things.

So, it’s important when you are praying that you ask for the right things. When you talk to God, you need to bring your concerns to Him. He is your Father. He is your heavenly Father and He wants to hear from you.

We’re going to turn to a Verse, 1 Thessalonians 5:17, to kind of get started here. So, if you have your Bible, I would like for you to get it. I know you probably have a Bible somewhere in the house. Obviously, if you are driving and you are listening to this or something, if you want to pull over great, but don’t be trying to do it while you are driving or anything like that.

But, take your Bible and go to 1 Thessalonians 5:17. So, I’m there now. I’m going to read it to you, so if you don’t have your Bible, don’t worry. Here we go: 1 Thessalonians 5:17 says, “Pray continually.” That’s it. Pray continually. You need to pray continually. God wants you to pray continually. He wants you to always be praying. What about? Anything.

Specifically, in this message, we’re talking about asking. So, ask Him. You have some trouble in your marriage, maybe you have trouble with your kids, maybe you have trouble at work, maybe you don’t know what you’re supposed to do in life, you have trouble with a purpose. Pray. Ask.

What we are going to dive into today is asking God for the right things. You have trouble with something, maybe you have trouble paying your bills. Are you supposed to ask God for more money? “Hey, God, please deposit some money into my bank account?” No. You’re not. There are specific things that you need to ask for.

Of course, you can ask Him for anything. You can ask Him for anything you want. You could ask Him for a brand new Ferrari to be parked in your driveway, you could ask Him to win the lottery, you could ask Him for whatever you want.

Now, sometimes you may not get those things, and the reason you don’t get them is because you are asking for things that number one you can’t handle, number two that wouldn’t be good for you, number three that you are asking with wrong motives.

If your kid comes up and asks you to have pop and candy for supper, you’re probably not going to give it to him. Yeah, but they asked and may have asked nicely, but you’re not going to give it to them. Why? Because they can’t have pop and candy for supper! It’s not good for them. So you’re not going to just give them everything they ask for.

In the same way your heavenly Father – your Father – just like you to your kids, He is – you’re a child of God. He is not going to give you everything you ask for.

Now, we are going to go to one more Verse, so if you’ve still got your Bible open, hopefully, it’s going to be 1 Thessalonians 5:18. And, it says, “Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

So, you need to be grateful, and we’re going to come more to that. So, I just brought it up now because we’re on that page. So, remember that Verse. We are going to turn back to it later. So, put a bookmarker in there or highlight it on your phone, whatever you do with your Bible – remember that. I read the Verse, so we’re coming back to it later on.

But, for now, you need to ask for the right things. So, again, we’re going to get to what it is. But, He wants to hear from you. God wants you to ask.

Just like if your kids ever have a problem, you want them to come to you. Sometimes when children are – especially in their teenage years – they feel like they might be having some trouble, or maybe they went to a party or something, and maybe they even had permission from you to go to the party, but something happened.

Maybe they got – had a drink, or they did something wrong. You want your kids to call you, or if they need to get picked up and get out of there, you want them to call you. You want them to ask. If you’re ever in trouble or you need help, God wants you to ask.

Sometimes your kids might be afraid because they know they did something wrong, and they may not want to go ask you or they may not want to ask for help. But, you still want them to ask in the same way your heavenly Father wants you to ask. So, even though you feel like what you did or maybe what you are asking for isn’t worth asking God or worth bothering Him with, He wants to be bothered. He wants you to talk to Him.

We’re going to go to 1 John 4:9. So, if you have your Bible again, let’s go there. 1 John 4:9 will be toward the back of the Bible. It says…let’s get there – here 4:9, “This is how God showed His love among us. He sent His one and only Son into the world that we might live through Him.”

So, this of course isn’t really directly related to asking God, but it shows something very important. And what it shows is that God loves you. How do we know God loves you? Well, we know it because He sent His Son into the world so we might live through Him.

Now, there’s another Verse that you probably know. It’s 1 John – or it’s just John, sorry – It’s John 3:16, “For God so loved the world,” so, there He loves you. “He sent His one and only Son.” I’m sure you know the Verse; you’ve probably heard it. But, the point is He loves you so much, and that’s how we know because He sent His only Son.

He sent his only Son to come here for you. That’s a different message, but, again, that’s what we believe. We believe in Jesus Christ. He came here to save us from our sins. He died for us. He was sent by our heavenly Father, God, for us. It’s a very powerful message, and it’s one of the many things in the Bible that proves that God loves us.

1 John 3:1 says, “How great is the love the Father has lavished on us that we should be called children of God.” So, we are officially children of God. He sent His son for us. We are His children.

Again, you love your children, most parents do. You love your child. You would pretty much do anything for them. God sent His Son to die for you. He loves you. So, if you don’t believe that after that, then keep tuning in for more because there will be a lot more on God and how much He loves you.

But, the point is God loves you. So you must understand everything you have comes from God, and you cannot have anything without asking Him first. Everything you have is God’s.

In a past message, we talked about how some people try to withhold things from God, and it doesn’t turn out well for them. So, don’t withhold from God. It’s all his anyway. He gave it to you, and He wants to give you more. He wants to bless you. He is waiting to bless you, but you need to ask him. It is only after you ask that you will receive.

So, let’s turn to Matthew 7:7. Let’s go there…okay, Matthew 7:7 says, “Ask and it will be given to you. Seek and you will find. Knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives. For everyone who seeks finds, and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.” We’re going to continue reading on this because this is very important.

So, we saw that how great the Father’s love for us is that we should be called children of God. Now we know that if we ask, it will be given to us. Okay? Continue on, point one – we are children of God. Point two – we need to ask, and we will receive.

Right here, Verse 9, Chapter 7 of Matthew. “Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil….” You are evil. You’re not perfect. You are not holy like God. That’s why we need Jesus so that His holiness will help us, His sacrifice, His death covers our sins.

Okay, so we are not perfect beings. God is perfect. So, “If you, then, though you are evil,…” or not perfect. You are not good, “…know how to give your children good gifts, or good gifts to your children, how much more will the Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask Him?”

God is perfect. You ask Him for something. Why would He give you something else? Why would He give you a stone or a snake? Because you wouldn’t do that to your kid. You love your kid. You love your child. If they ask, you will give them what is best for them. You’re not going to give them candy all the time just because they ask for it, because it’s not good for them.

Your heavenly Father loves you more than you will ever know. We’ve established that through a couple of different Verses. He loves you more than you will ever know. He loves you more than you love your kids. He loves your kids more than He – than you love – anyway, He loves you. That’s the point. He loves you so much, more than you will ever know, more than you can ever comprehend.

So, if you ask God for something, He will give it to you. He, “Everyone who asks receives. He who seeks finds, and to him who knocks the door will be opened.” That’s Jesus’s words right there. You will receive.

Okay, so now you’re asking God for all these things, why aren’t you getting them? Well, He will only give you what you ask for, provided you are asking for the right things. What is the right thing? What does that mean? You must be sincere. You must be true.

You can’t say, “All right, God, I want a million dollars because I need to be a millionaire.” Well, why do you need to be a millionaire? Because you’re greedy, you’re evil, you’re not a good person?

Oh no, you’re a good person, you just want to be rich. You want money because you don’t want to have to think about things or worry about things, so you want money. Okay, you’re not doing evil things with it. You do good things. Okay, you want a million dollars, you’ll give half of it away? Great! God, where is it? Why am I not getting it?

Because maybe it’s not good for you. Maybe you can’t handle it. You don’t know. Maybe it’s not sincere; you’re not true. You just want it.

You cannot be asking for something that will simply be used for your pleasure. If it’s just for your pleasure, it’s not important because your life is God’s. You’ve dedicated it to Him. Hopefully, you’re being hot. You’re fully committed to Christ, and you are moving forward. So, the things you ask for must be something of God, or from God, of God.

Meaning when you ask for something, you want more of God in you. You want to become more like Jesus. You want to become more like Christ. You want more of Him inside you because if there is more of Him in you, then the Devil cannot look at you and say, “I see myself in you.” And, if the Devil doesn’t see himself in you, he will run from you. He will flee from you. You want that. You want him to flee from you. So, you want to be more like God.

Asking for tons of great earthly riches is not more like God. God’s Kingdom is not here. His Kingdom is somewhere else. His kingdom is in Heaven. You want heavenly riches. You don’t want earthly riches.

Now, can you have earthly riches? Sure. You can have great wealth here on earth – tons of rich people in the Bible. Job, very wealthy, he went through hell on earth. He asked God, God gave it to him. Okay, ask with sincere motives, and always ask for more of God in you. You want to be more like Jesus. It must be something of the Lord.

We’re going to go to James, James 4:3. So, if you have your Bible, get there. Let’s go to James. I’ve probably lost my markers, so bear with me. James 4, Verse 3. Okay, hopefully, you’re there. If not, listen up because I’m going to read it for you, “When you ask, you do not receive because you ask with wrong motives that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.”

Okay, wait a minute now. In Matthew, Jesus said, “Ask and you shall receive. Seek and you shall find. Knock and the door will be opened to you.” Now, James is saying, “Because you ask with wrong motives, you do not receive it.”

So, the point is when you ask, you will receive – Jesus’ words, if you are asking with the correct motives.

Let’s read a little bit more of James. We’re going to go up a little bit to Verse number 2, “You want something but don’t get it.” So, you want to win the lottery, you don’t get it. You want your Porsche, you don’t get it. You want your million dollars, you don’t get it, “’You kill and covet because you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God.”

How are you trying to get all this stuff that you want? Are you asking God, or are you trying to pursue it by your own means? If you’re pursuing it by your own means, you’re not going to get it. You need to ask God. God will give it to you. Ask with the right motives.

What, what is the right motives? What things are you should, are you supposed to be asking for? Let’s dive into this a little bit more. So, you need to be asking for Godly things. What are Godly things? For example, instead of asking for more money, maybe you need to be asking God to help you be satisfied with the money that you have.

Don’t ask for more money. Ask for the satisfaction. Ask for wisdom. Maybe you have money, maybe you are making $100,000 or $200,000 a year, but you feel like you are broke. Obviously, something is wrong because there’re people out there that make less than $30,000 a year, and they’re doing pretty well. Why are they doing well when you are making four times what they’re making?

Because they are managing their money properly. They’re not spending it all over the place. They’re using it for what they need to use it for. They recognize that it’s given to them by God, and they’re grateful for what little they do have even though you have a bunch.

You need to have the wisdom to know how to use what God has given you. Ask for that. Don’t ask for more money. Ask for the proper allocation of your money, or maybe ask God to give you a job or to give you the skills necessary to get a good job or a better job. That means you’re going to have to work. You’re going to have to work for the skills. You need to do something to get it. You need to ask for Godly things.

Think about Jesus. What did He do? Did He have a million dollars in the bank account? No, He didn’t. They didn’t even have – that, no, he didn’t have that. He had great wealth, and He shared it with others. He shared everything He had. It was all knowledge, wisdom, teachings. He shared it all. Why? Because He knew his time here was temporary, exactly like your time here is temporary.

Again, that doesn’t mean you need to be giving away everything and go live like a homeless nomad wandering the streets preaching crazily. No, use what God has given you. Everything we have comes from God. If you are very wealthy, if you have some money, if you have no money, if you have a good house, you have a car, whatever – it’s all given to you from God. Use it to complete your purpose here on Earth.

So, maybe instead of asking God to help you get a promotion, ask God to help you receive the characteristics necessary to be promoted. Maybe you’re not going to be promoted because you treat other people horribly or you don’t listen to them. You don’t help them. You’re only in it for yourself. You’re never going to get a promotion.

Why don’t you ask God to help you get out of your own way and treat other people better? Now you’re asking Him for what? You’re asking Him to be more like Him because Jesus would treat other people well. Now there is more of God in you, and you are more desirable for that promotion or that position that you couldn’t get before.

Okay, it’s up to you – your willingness to develop those characteristics. If you are willing, you will have. Remember, “Ask and you shall receive. Seek and you shall find. Knock and the door will be opened.”

Okay, ask God, “God, I want the characteristics and the traits necessary to be promoted, to get a better job.” Why do you want the better Job? You want the better job to make more money, to better provide for your family, to help, share with other people, not just for yourself.

Okay, “Seek and you shall find.” What are you seeking? You’re seeking those characteristics. What do you need to do to get them? Self-help books, maybe some podcasts, some listening, some courses – you need to develop those characteristics. Seek it, you found it.

“Knock and the door will be opened.” What are you knocking on? You’re knocking on the door of a promotion, the door of opportunity. You ask, you receive. You seek, you find. Then, you knock and the door is open. Now, bam, you’re promoted, and you will do what with all of that great promotion? Exactly what you said you would do because that’s why you asked.

Again, James, “When you do not receive, it is because you ask with wrong motives that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.” If you are only getting that promotion to spend on better cable TV, premium channels, sports, Netflix, Hulu, Disney+ – you want them all – ESPN+, Apple TV. You don’t need all that. You don’t need all that. Ask with the right motives and you will have it. “Ask, you shall receive. Seek, you shall find. Knock and the door will be opened.”

Okay, we’re going to go to a couple more Verses before we close here. So, let’s go to Matthew again. Remember, we had the one we need to come back to. Let me mark that one. Whoa, marker’s going crazy. All right, Matthew…we’re going to go to 6:8 and 9. All right, so, 8 and 9, it says…yeah, Matthew Chapter 6, Verses 8 and 9. So, this is about when you are praying, “Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him.”

God knows what you need. That’s the point of this here. So, this Verse is telling us – this is about, and then we dive into the Lord’s prayer. It says, “When you pray, do not keep babbling on like the pagans who think they will be heard because of their many words.”

Do not be like them. God knows what you need even before you ask. Yet, He still wants you to ask. Remember, pray continually. God wants you to ask because He loves you. Just like you would want your kid to ask if they are stuck at a party and they want to come home, or something happened but they are too ashamed to talk to you.

God wants you to ask, and when you pray, don’t worry about it. Remember Moses? He said, “God, I can’t go talk to Pharaoh. Are you kidding me? I’m a shepherd here. I stutter when I speak. I don’t have good words. I can hardly talk. They’ll never listen to me.” God said, “Don’t worry about it. Go because I will teach you what to say. I will speak for you.”

So, ask! Don’t worry about all these many words like the pagans. You don’t have to have big prayers, Hail Marys, and all this stuff that don’t work anyway. You pray to God, to Yahweh, to Jesus Christ. Okay, that’s who you pray to, and it’s very simple.

Lord, I need the characteristics necessary to be promoted. Why? Because I need to provide better for my family. I told them I would do that when I married my wife or when I had kids. I have to provide for them. You’re not doing it to do more, but now remember that also means you can’t be spending everything on your pleasures. You need to be committing to God. Do Godly things. Ask for Godly things. You want more of God in you.

So let’s come back to this other Verse, 5:17 – so, 1 Thessalonians 5:17, and it says, “Pray continually.” Okay? Verse 18 is where we want to come back, “Give thanks in all circumstances for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

So, God not only wants you to ask, He wants you to receive. He wants you to have it, to have what you want, to have the door open for you, to seek and find, but then He wants you to give thanks. So, if you ask for something and don’t get it, you need to give thanks. Thank God for bringing you through whatever He brought you through.

When you do get it, because you finally asked for the right thing, thank God. Give Him the glory. He gave it to you. Nothing good comes from you. It’s all from Him. Everything is coming from God. He is giving you everything.

He is giving you the understanding to understand what I’m saying here, what this message is bringing to you. He is giving you the time and the opportunity to hear these words, and it is up to you whether you are going to let them speak to you or whether you are going to shrug them off as yet another person trying to tell you what to do.

I’m not telling you what to do. God is speaking to you. This is a vessel. He is talking through the Bible. There are many words that we just read right now. If you need to remember them, feel free, go back through the video here, write down the verses, read them, meditate on them, study them. Allow them to speak to you.

Remember you need to be hot. You need to be committed to the Lord. Ask for the right things. They will be given to you.

Let’s pray:

Lord Jesus, thank you so much for this time today. Thank you for all of the people who are tuning in and letting these words touch them. Lord, please use these words to touch their spirits, renew their minds and their souls, give them energy and strength and healing, as well.

Lord, help them to know exactly what it is they are supposed to ask for, what they need. We know, Lord, that you are our heavenly Father and that you want to give us good things. What earthly parent would give their son a stone when they ask for bread? You wouldn’t do that to us; we wouldn’t do that to our children.

So, we know Lord that you love us. Thank you so much for sending your Son and showing that great act of love.

We ask Lord that each and every person seeing this and here today would know exactly what it is they need to ask for and how to ask for it. Not only would they ask but that they would also start seeking it and then find and that when they knock, the door would be opened.

And, we ask all of this in your Son Jesus’ name.


Ask God. Ask Him for the right things. Pray continually, all day long, every day. Be talking to God, and ask Him for the things you need. He wants to give them to you. He will give them to you. Ask for the right things.

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